In case if the couple of future Intended Parents manage to find an obstetrician or gynecologist whom they know, or with whom they have some relationship, the majority of these issues may be determined in their favor, and, of no doubt, they will more control over the entire pregnancy. however, if the Surrogate Mother manages to use her usual obstetrician or gynecologist, with whom she, of course, has had a preexisting relationship, most of these issues will be more likely determined in her favor, and it will be her, who has more control over the pregnancy. Anyway, it is extremely advisable to find some capable physician, and then both participants will have a vested interest in what will happen to them as well as to the future baby.
Second. All the participants of any surrogacy agreement should discuss openly and agree on the behavioral limitations, which the Surrogate Mother would be able and willing to accept with the aim of the protection of her pregnancy and the health of a future child.
In case if this woman smokes, will she be able to quit during the pregnancy term?
If this woman is drug addicted, has she disclosed this fact honestly to the couple of the future Intended Parents, and will, or can she stop during the pregnancy term?
If this woman is a moderate drinker, will she agree not to consume any alcohol in any social situation, even under conditions, that the child, she is expecting is not intended to hers?
If the future Surrogate Mother got used to begin her day with several cups of strong coffee, will she agree to abstain from caffeine during her pregnancy term?
In case if the woman is a lacrosse coacher, and if she got used to be on the field and play the game with along with her athletes while she coaches them, even during her third pregnancy trimester of her own previous pregnancies, which finished successfully, will she agree to restrict this type of behavior simply because this is the child of the Intended Parents, which do not approve this?
Every issue, mentioned above, was the reason of disputes, resulting from real life situations. That is why all possible restrictions, which the couples of the Intended Parents considered prudent for the gestation of their own child are to be discussed, negotiated and resolved yet before the pregnancy occurs.
Third. All participants of a surrogacy agreement should discuss openly and honestly all their expectations about the pregnancy management in the light of the health of the fetus, the amount of fetuses and the respective values of the couple of the Intended Parents and their Surrogate Mother. For example, if an over – forty – years – old Intended Mother gives her own egg to create the embryos, with which the Surrogate Mother will be fertilized, then the risk of Down’s Syndrome or some other more serious health conditions becomes greater. There are couples of the Intended Parents, which desire to lead the pregnancy to its end and to receive their child without paying any attention to his or her health condition, however, others prefer to end the pregnancy in case if there are any health problems with the fetus. It is not a secret, that if the In Vitro Fertilization procedure is applied, and when several embryos are implanted into the Surrogate Mother’s uterus, the likelihood of a multiple pregnancy becomes much higher, and then the issue of a selective reduction procedure becomes relevant.
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