If after all considerations, you have found that becoming intended parents or a surrogate mother would be exactly what you want and what you can afford, you should start to determine your needs. You are never to forget, that surrogacy process involves a highly personal set of interactions between you as intended parents, and the woman, who will be a surrogate mother for your perspective baby. Surrogacy is an event, which is highly emotionally charged, and it can easily lead to misunderstandings, conflicts, and other problems. All surrogacy arrangements should be made slowly and with great cautious. First of all you should determine what you are looking for in a surrogacy arrangement? If you are perspective intended parents, then do you simply want to have a child, or do you wish to have a healthy child, should your baby be genetically linked to you, etc. In case, if you are a woman, who decided to become a surrogate mother for an infertile couple, it is up to you to consider if your goal is to help someone to have a baby, or is it to do something unusual, are you expecting being appreciated, or, maybe there is something more, you wish?
 In order your surrogacy arrangement were successful, it should contain the following:
• Confidence in the decision to take part in the surrogacy arrangement.
People, who become perspective intended parents are to be comfortable in their decision to become parents using a surrogacy option. If they are infertile, there must be a feeling of completion in their infertility treatments. A woman, who will become a surrogate mother, should also make a decision to do so, and she is to feel strong support throughout the entire pregnancy period.
• Comfortable ties between the woman, who becomes a surrogate mother and the perspective intended parents.
Before you begin any surrogacy arrangement, it is important to decide what qualities a perspective surrogate mother or intended parents are to possess in order you would feel confident in them, and in order you would be able to have warm relationship and easy communication during your journey. The surrogacy should be based on trust, so, it is necessary that you would access for yourself what you need in order to have that trust in your surrogacy partner. It is also of a great importance, that all people, who take part in this process, would obtain a feeling of their being together in the journey. A woman, willing to become a surrogate mother should be motivated by her ability to help other people, and intended parents. Having friendly and warm relationship between a surrogate mother and intended parents is possibly the only most important factor, that would determine whether a surrogacy will be a joyous and enjoyable experience or one of the most complicated and tough tests you will ever have in your life.
• Good timing.
Either a surrogate mother or intended parents are to do the surrogacy arrangement in a time frame, which would fit in their lives’ schedule. And these time frames are to coincide in order to avoid a lot of complicated problems. Both a surrogate mother and intended parents are to be able to take the time out from their lives for all the surrogacy arrangements.
• Similar values and beliefs between the surrogate mother and intended parents.
If a surrogate mother and perspective intended parents have different values and their points of view are differ much, this may cause conflicts, some of which may even be with unpredictable results. It does not matter, whether in politics, religion, or in any other field these people’s value systems are to be generally similar, and their beliefs are not to collide with one another.
• Supportive and knowledgeable professionals.
One of the biggest roles in all the surrogacy arrangements would a supportive physician, willing to help and co – work with either a woman, who will be a surrogate mother or the perspective intended parents. You should never forget that a good legal assistance and support is never bad in any arrangement, especially in surrogacy, and it is crucial even, if surrogacy takes place between family members. Having an experienced therapist would also provide you assistance in assuring in all the participants getting ready to what is going to be ahead, and it can help to clear up and avoid many possible misunderstandings, and you will also have aid during every step of your journey.
• A successful pregnancy.
Many people, who are willing to become intended parents consider that a woman, whom they would choose as a surrogate mother for their future baby, is to have experienced at least one successful pregnancy in her life, in order that she would be able to understand what is it to be expecting a baby, and how to deliver a good and healthy child. But it should be mentioned, that there is no person in the world, who would be able to make an accurate prognosis of someone’s pregnancy duration.
• A strong support of the surrogate mother.
The closest people to the surrogate mother: her family members, relative, friends, etc, are to provide support and assistance. They should understand the surrogacy process in order to provide all the necessary help. These people have the most influence and that is why they should help her control emotions, fulfill every prescription of her doctor, and so on in order she should have no complications during her pregnancy and during the postpartum period as well.
• The intended parents appreciation.
Those people, who are going to become intended parents, should understand everything what the woman, who carries a baby for them, is doing. They are to appreciate all her work and efforts, and they should show their gratitude during all the pregnancy period and during the postpartum period as well. Receiving this kind of support will help the surrogate mother feel herself comfortable and be sure in her decision.
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