Of course, if you are a family, which suffers from infertility for years, and if you have tried to do everything to get pregnant, but all your attempts failed, of if you a single man or woman, who wants to have a baby, or even if your are a couple of homosexuals, you may feel impatient, about having a baby. You may also have spent years, trying to decide, if you should have a child, and now, when you finally decided, that you should, you will have to choose a method, and then go through the whole process, although this journey may seem endless for you. What is really important for you is to take your time and make the evaluation of all your options and abilities. Keep in mind that months, or even years may pass, when you will finally become a parent, but do not forget, that once you become a mother or a father, or both, it is for the rest of your life. You should be rushing with making a decision of yours, as the result of it can possibly be a decision, which is not the best for you.
When you are making a decision, and weighing all your options, the best for you is to start with finding all positive and negative sides of every option, then you should compare the list of yours to the financial, emotional and physical resources, as well as how much time will you be able to spend on your future baby – expecting journey.
 • Financial Resources: what are you going to do with the amount of money, you need? Do you possess the sum, necessary for you, or are you going to get a loan. In case of borrowing, how much will you have to borrow, and where? Is there any money, you can spend, without limiting yourself and your family? How much can your health insurance cover? Are there any available employee benefits or government program, which might assist you in case, if you need help from it?
• Emotional Resources: In what way might each of the above mentioned options affect your family members, other relatives, friends, neighbours, etc; and what sort of reaction are you expecting from allof them? How much of a strain is each of these options on your marriage, friendships, and personal self esteem? Do you have at least someone among your family members, friends, and other relatives, who can provide you emotional assistance and on whom you can rely?
• Physical Resources: What procedures, do you think, your organism will be able to handle? Are you aware, that there are certain kinds or risks, you are exposed to? If yes, what risks are you ready to take? How do you estimate your chances of a success? Do you think, that you are able, and that you are willing to come through all further invasive procedures? In case, if bed rest were required for your and your future baby’s health, are you ready to quit your work, all your house responsibilities in order to save your little one’s life and / or your health, or, maybe life?
Making your personal list of what you can invest into each of the options of the further process of having a baby is extremely important for you. Because, you may, for example, be willing and you may have an ability to invest more time and money into the adoption process, but you possess less emotional and physical resources for your own protection, or, you may be willing to spend less money and physical resources of yours into the coming infertility treatments, but more time and emotional investment, etc. You are also to find all the benefits and drawbacks of each of these options. If you live with your husband, of with your boyfriend, who is going to be your baby’s father, then it would be better for you if each of you made such a list, so, that you both will be able to estimate and discuss each other’s preferences, concerns and emotions, regarding the future journey of yours.
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