Are you physically healthy?
Of course you do understand, that the physical health of a woman, who will become a surrogate mother for your future baby, is of extreme importance, and it is one of the main facts, which will determine your baby’s health. That is why it is necessary for a potential surrogate to make a thorough physical investigation in order to let you make sure she has no diseases or any kind of physical condition, which can possibly cause any problems during the process of pregnancy and / or delivery. In case if this woman has already delivered at least one baby, then you should ask her about her previous experiences. Remember, that difficult pregnancy and / or labour in the past can not bode well for the future.
In addition, in case if you are going to use the egg of the surrogate mother, you should also ask different questions about her medical history, because her genetics will, of no doubt, be passed on your child.
 Will you be able to handle the emotional side of surrogacy?
It is an extremely difficult thing to carry a baby inside for a period of nine months and after the baby arrives, simply to give him or her up. And it does not matter, if this baby will have any genetic relation to the surrogate mother, or not, he or she becomes a part of this woman’s life.
For this it ix necessary to make sure that the surrogate mother will be able to handle all the emotional influence of surrogacy. Her emotional state can be evaluated by a counselor. In addition, a well – experienced one can also provide her necessary emotional support before, during as well as after pregnancy. However, if you apply to a professional psychologist, there will still be a lot of topics to discuss before you settle on a surrogate.
Moreover, there are a lot of issues, which can arise during the pregnancy period and they can be upsetting to the surrogate mother from either emotional or moral point of view. And you should know in what way she will be able to handle, them, as it can influence your decision of whether to enter into a surrogacy agreement with this very woman or not. For instance, you need to know if the potential surrogate mother would be able to handle some decisions, which you make about the future of the child, such as making an abortion in case if the baby would show any signs of either physical or mental disabilities, or applying a “selective reduction” to abort one or more of the embryos, in case if there occurs a multiple pregnancy. And remember, that it is extremely important to choose the surrogate mother, who would be on the same page as your on most issues, like the ones, mentioned above, as this woman will also have to live with any decisions you are going to make.
Do you have a strong support network?
You should be aware that the woman’s family, just as well as her friends, are of a positive opinion about the possibility of her becoming a surrogate mother. It is necessary to be so, simply because it usually influences the way the surrogate mother will be able to handle it herself. In case if this woman is married, in addition, if she already has child / children of her own, it is extremely important that her family members be supportive of her decision to become a surrogate mother. Finally, they will be the people, who this woman turns to when she gets tired, upset, anxious, or when she will need someone to talk to.
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