There is no doubt that adoption is considered to be a traditional way for singles and couples, which for some reason or other can not have their own children. However, nowadays more and more gay and lesbian couples become less and less satisfied with this option, mainly because they wish to have a child, who would be truly “of their own flesh”. For these people surrogacy becomes a problem’s solution. Gay as well as lesbian couples, who can not or who do not wish to bear a child by themselves nowadays have a perfect opportunity to parent a biological child.
 As it has already been mentioned several times, there exist two possible types of surrogacy. In traditional surrogacy an egg of the surrogate mother is fertilized by way of artificial insemination. In gestational surrogacy, the egg is fertilized in the laboratory conditions, and in case of successful fertilization, it is transplanted into the uterus of the surrogate mother.
Surrogacy is truly considered to be quite a viable option for gay and lesbian couples, who want to parent a biological child of at least one of them, choosing a good and suitable surrogate mother is a very delicate task. Especially important are the initial stages of finding a right surrogate, because every decision a person makes, can have quite a long lasting influence on his life and family.
Asking the Right Questions
The fist interview with a potential surrogate mother is very important, as there exists a tremendous amount of factors, which can determine if a woman is the very person, to be chosen to carry your child. It is simply necessary to keep in mind, that the potential surrogate mother’s genetics, physical and emotional health, support network, etc, can have a bearing on the development as well as on the well being of your own future child. In addition, there are also medical, legal as well as financial considerations, which you should keep in mind. Asking all the questions, mentioned below, would be helpful in providing of weeding out surrogates, which do not mesh well with your vision of the future and of your family.
Are you comfortable carrying a child for a gay or lesbian couple?
You should be honest and upfront with every women you interview, not only because it will be extremely important to keep good and friendly relationship with your surrogate mother, but also because you are to know if this woman is comfortable with the very fact that you and your partner are gays or lesbians. In case if you see, that she is not, it may influence your relationship, which will become more and more strained, as the time will go, and this may affect your baby. There is no doubt, that you should never make any attempts to initiate a surrogacy agreement with a woman, whom you feel, not to be able to accept your homosexuality.
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