In order to be sure that the potential Surrogate Mother is guided by a proper motivation, the couple of the Intended Parents should verify the source of the Surrogate Mother’s desire to help – they will have to find out whether it is because this woman has some friend of family member who has experienced the frustration of infertility, or because she loves her own child / children so much that she wants to help other people experience the joy of being parents. And women, who express the desire to become a Surrogate Mother, but who are on public assistance, in some financial crisis situation, just as well as women, with some criminal history of fraud by check, solicitation or any other “get money quick” behavior should always be avoided. Anyway, it would be extremely useful, if any couple of potential Intended Parents would be open to discussing the issue and amount of compensation that the woman, they consider as their potential Surrogate Mother expects to receive in order to make sure that it is reasonable and that it would match their ability to pay.
It should also be noted, that in order to manage any possible psychological and emotional problem of a surrogate gestation, the Surrogate Mother is to have a positive and supportive personal environment. If a potential Surrogate Mother is a married woman, or if she is at least in stable relationships, it would be extremely important that her husband or boyfriend is supportive of her intentions. In addition, this person should be able to experience all the limitations as well as results of his spouse’s pregnancy without having any feeling of regret or any desire to keep the child / children, and this person is never to be improperly motivated by the financial compensation his wife or girlfriend will receive. It would also be desirable, though not necessary as important that the parents, siblings and any other close family members as well as her friends would at leas accept and try to understand the woman’s desire to become a Surrogate Mother. It is necessary to keep in mind for any couple of the potential Intended Parents, that the more emotional and psychological support their Surrogate Mother has, the more stable and reliable she is considered to be.
Another fact, which also plays quite an important role in consideration about choosing the most suitable Surrogate Mother, is the woman’s health and social history. Any couple of future Intended Parent should look for a woman without any psychical or mental condition, which could jeopardize her or the child’s / children’s health or impair her ability to carry her pregnancy successfully and deliver a healthy and normal child / children. In addition, the potential Surrogate Mother should be a woman in good general health condition. While choosing among possible candidates, such issues should be taken into consideration as the woman’s and her family’s overall health history, her personal sexual behavior and history of sexually transmitted diseases, history of depression or other mental conditions and / or treatment, as well as criminal records, and personal habits, including tobacco, alcohol and / or drug addiction, etc. It is desirable to choose a Surrogate Mother, without issues in any of the abovementioned areas, and who has such personal health habits, which are reassuring to, rather than stress including for, the future Intended Parents.
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