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| Surrogacy Tips for Intended Parents | 1. Ask your In Vitro Fertilization clinic about their requirements for the surrogate mothers.
You should not forget, that many men, many minds, different IVF clinics usually have different requirements for surrogate mothers. There are clinics, which may require perspective surrogates to have at least one child of their own, be under certain age, etc. Most doctors pay attention at any extra weight, in case if the surrogate mother has it. However, in all cases the reproductive endocrinologist is truly considered to be the best person to talk to before the couple of future intended parents begins to look for a woman, who will become their surrogate. This is the very, (and in most cases the only) person, who will educate people on what is the best criteria of selection.
2. Prepare a letter about yourself to your future surrogate mother.
It would be useful for any couple of potential intended parents to write several paragraphs about their family, their situation, and their In Vitro Fertilization treatment plans. It is necessary to explain every goal, time frame and requirement as clear, as possible. In addition, this will help you to save time.
3. Meet your candidate for a surrogate mother in person.
It is extremely important for every couple of future intended parents to meet every candidate for surrogate mother in person. Sending e – mails or communicating thorough the telephone does not always prove to be as accurate, as you may be thinking of it. It would be good not only to meet the very woman, but her husband, children, etc, if any, before you make your final decision. Do it, unless you are hiring a surrogacy agency, or a surrogate professional, who proves to be quite an experienced person in screening candidates.
4. Always have your surrogacy contract with you.
Your surrogacy contract will be needed yet before the woman, who will become the surrogate mother for your future baby begins any tests and / or medical procedures. In case if there is no surrogacy contract in place, there is the risk of local laws violating, not even mentioning about jeopardizing your parental rights.
5. Never make any kind of payment before your surrogacy contract is signed.
In case if the intended parents are asked to give any amount of money to your surrogate mother before signing surrogacy contract, then it looks like they are dealing with the scammer very much. Then no money is to be expected to be returned. Unfortunately, not everyone is honest in this world.
6. Do not agree to make any up front payments.
In case if your surrogate asks you to pay a couple of thousand dollars upfront or “contract signing fees”, it looks much like she is a scammer. There is very high chance that the couple of intended parents will never see either their money or this woman again. It is also important to make sure that the surrogate mother is reimbursed “by procedure” on a Surrogacy Contract.
7. What “no agency” can really mean.
Some perspective surrogate mothers write a word – combination “no agency” on their advertisements. What could it mean in reality? It is extremely likely that this woman has something to hide and she is expecting for some inexperienced infertile couple would not be able to uncover it. However, it is also possible, that these words can mean that the woman was turned down by the surrogacy agencies. There are also cases, in which the candidate for a surrogate mother may states that she wants to save the money of the couple of intended parents, however, it really means that she does not want anyone, who has knowledge and experience in the field of surrogacy to be somewhere around.
8. Traditional surrogacy.
Although there are cases of traditional surrogacy, this kind of surrogacy is considered to be much more risky than the gestational surrogacy, because the biological mother of the baby, conceived in the result of a surrogacy agreement, may have parental rights over her child. Anyway, before entering any traditional surrogacy agreement, it is extremely important to check the state laws. In addition, being a couple of potential intended parents, you should deal only with an attorney, who is well – experienced in the field of surrogacy, in order that he would make sure that the parental rights of a surrogate mother are terminated in a proper way, and that the payments, the couple of intended parents made to the surrogate mother would not be interpreted as “baby selling” by the local laws.
9. Be careful about any home insemination scam propositions.
Any potential couple of intended parents may encounter a surrogate, who will offer them to conduct a “home insemination” in order to “save money”. However, it is necessary to know that any kind of artificial insemination with the sample of a fresh sperm is to be performed by a well – trained physician, using specific fertility medications. Keep in mind that sperm loses its motility and “dies” after one hour.
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