Gestational surrogacy began with using the volunteers from one and the same family, and only after that it developed into the recruited volunteers’ involvement. Thus, nowadays, it is more usual, that more recruited volunteer becomes a gestational carrier, rather than one of the family members, or of close relatives. No one can say, how fair the families are, when choose to become a gestational carrier, or when choose someone from close relatives to be a gestational carrier for them. But there is the clinical experience conducted, in order to learn from for those people, who explore the possibility of using one of the family members as a gestational carrier.
 Family members live with the person, or couple, which suffers from infertility that is why unlike some recruited volunteers, close relatives are drawn to become a gestational surrogacy carrier. As a rule, infertile couple occurs in a dramatic medical situation, which makes them need a gestational carrier. Among these situations may possibly be racial hysterectomy, diabetes, and some other life long diseases, or an absence of the uterus. Most often close relatives know about the medical situation of the intended parents, and propose their help.
Usually the prospective intended parents can not ascertain if the family member volunteers to become a gestational carrier for them because she wishes to help, or simply because of the feeling of obligation or duty. This kind of situation may happen to be the most difficult to overcome as for the intended mother and for the woman, who volunteers to become a gestational carrier for her relative as well.
There are some great advantages of using a family member as a gestational carrier, because you, as well as your partner are aware of the state of health, biography and genetics of the carrier; but you are always to remember, that before any cycle is begun, it is absolutely necessary to provide a good assessment of the situation. To the advantages of the family member using as a gestational carrier we can also refer:
° You and your partner will always feel comfortably because you both can have a contact with the gestational carrier during the attempts of getting pregnant, and during the nine months of pregnancy as well;
° No negotiation about further relationship will be needed after the baby is delivered, as there is already established firm relationship.
Before getting involved in the gestational surrogacy within one family arrangements, the woman, who is going to become the carrier, her partner, as well as the genetic parents of the future baby are to think over how might this journey affect their relationship after everything is completed. You are to be sure that your relationship will change, and it is a silly thing to consider that going through such a kind of experience would change nothing between you. It does not mean at all that you will have better or worse relationship, but they will become somewhat different, just because any significant event, happening in the family bring some kinds of changes into it; and what kind relationship you all are going to establish after all, depends purely on you.
In case if surrogacy arrangement is completed between family members or people, who are relatives to each other, there is a number of issues to be considered as well:
• Is it very important, that a real mother of a baby, delivered with the help or a surrogacy arrangements is somewhere near him, and how would intended parents feel about it?
• Will the woman, who was the surrogate mother of the baby ever feel some kind of a special bond between them, or will there ever be any claim to the baby, she had been carrying for her relative or family member?
• How would you feel, being intended parents, if there is any serious conflict, which concerns prenatal care?
• Is it possible, that a serious surrogacy caused dispute over money would effect your relations within the family? How would you feel, if there were any?
• Is it possible that after the baby’s arrival there would be serious conflicts, concerning the child’s rearing? How would you feel, if there were any?
• Are there any safe guards, you make in order to assure the well being of your family and relationship with your relative, who will become a surrogate mother for you?
The best for the intended parents, for the surrogate mother, and for the baby would be, if despite your relationship, you all would go through all the steps a successful pregnancy requires without any problems. In case if any of your ever neglected legal representation obtaining, signing a contract, proper screening and psychological support ensuring, or non partial persons in order to provide help in conflicts resolving involvement, can possibly lead to stressful situations and have disastrous consequences.
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